Kasal, Kasali

We watched the movie last Monday, January 1 at Robinson's Galleria for the 7:45 showing. I was with my ate, mama and Irwin. We were a bit late so we were rushing to get to the parking lot after dropping ate and mama to the entrance so they could buy the tickets. We got a parking near the elevator. As we were about to board the elevator, the passengers going out were Angel Locsin, Jennilyn Mercado and other kapuso stars. We'll they just looked familiar to me. I asked Irwin if he wants to stay out of the elevator and he laughingly said yes. Maybe that made his day seeing Angel Locsin in the flesh.

Going back to the review, we were not able to see the start the movie so the first thing we've seen was the scene where Gina Pareno was preparing the Batotay, or Longanisa and incredulously asking Juday why she is getting married when they do not know if she has a boyfriend and of course Juday's famous answer was "Hindi ako buntis".

Gina Pareno's acting was so convincing it was like she was not acting; she is so funny as the mother of Juday who is a "politicians" or barangay kagawad. She was a typical Filipino mother on a typical scene in a province with a typical marital situation where the parents are separated and left the mother bitter with the separation.
It was a "typical Filipino" portrayal during weddings. Bride informs her family, Groom asks for the bride’s hand in marriage and both parties would talk about the wedding. The Grooms parent Ariel Ureta and Gloria Diaz were the rich parents and Gloria was accused of being “matapobre” to the family of Juday. Ariel Ureta was the rational and understanding one. His line “ pabayaan mo na ang anak mo, kasal niya yan hindi ikaw ang ikakasal” would hit a lot of Bride-to-be or former brides, Filipino or non-Filipino because people really can’t help by share their ideas during weddings.
I know a friend who wants a solemn wedding in a secluded farm with only 50 guests and her parents wants to invite at least 300 guests. More or less just like in the movie, they ended up getting a civil marriage.
Juday’s acting was funny, “typical” again of Juday, she is effective in portraying underdog characters, like in her past tele-serye, where the poor girl gets the rich man and lives happily ever after. Reminds of “I’m sorry my Love” with Onemig Bondoc. Really, I watched it and it never failed to make me laugh and fall off the seat the first time I’ve seen it.
One thing for sure that really caught my attention, she lost a lot of pounds! She can wear mini skirts and show off her legs, her shirts were small in size I guess. It inspires me to lose some weight too. Well, Juday is not the “typical” beauty like Claudine, Bea, Roxanne, and other stars but she has no competition when it comes to comedy series. She can really make me laugh. It is so natural of her to say those quick, long lines.
Guys are attracted to these gals I think because of their sense of humor. Like Ryan A, again he is a “typical” rich, mama’s boy who can’t decide on his own that he keeps on asking his friends for decisions that he should make himself. Even in the proposal for marriage, he kind of let Juday decide if he would go to the States or not by asking Juday to marry him. It shows a little weakness in his character role, and that weakness compensates or compliments Juday’s assertive and aggressive role.

Overall, this movie shows what everyone of us knows already but failed to recognize them. Married life in the Philippines is different because of close family ties and because of this we have to consider everybody in our decision, parents, relatives and friends. Close family ties encourages living with the parents, much to the chagrin of the bride or the groom who wants to live separately but can’t because of financial difficulties and practicality. A groom or a bride would really never realize the difficulty or challenges of married life unless they live in a separate house apart from the parents. Well, I hope Juday would inspire me to be myself just like her in any setting or situation and not the best foot forward show that I seriously am trying to do. I am glad we watched this movie because right after watching it, we planned to move out and build our own house, maybe look for a place where we could rent or buy a house on a loan. I never have to point out to my husband anything, I never said a word, the movie says it all.

Something NonWedding

After a year and a month of being married, living with the in laws and having two different jobs in a year, I could say that I am loving life. I love life because finally I was doing something that I love; Teaching. I was lucky to be accepted as a part time professor in a University in Pasig. If I had known that this profession would finally end my worries and change me a lot. I should have tried it a long, long, long time ago.
I have fear of speaking in front of an audience. I fear getting embarrassed. I a person with a lot of fears and by being a Professor. I was facing that fear and conquering them.
I teach Psychology, Guidance and Counseling and Sociology. It is the first time I used the reference book and thought it is very difficult to study, I want to study and teach them, I want to impart my knowledge, prove my skills, help the students in any way I can.
Kahit na gaano kahirap ang pagtuturo gagawin ko para sa mga bata.
I want to help them land a good job, I want to improve thier confidence. I want their parents to be proud of them, I want them to graduate.

Im a Bum

Life is so much better now, I can spend a lot of time with my husband, do the things I wanted to do, I am really spoiling the inner child in me. My friend, said that I am a very lucky person, I don't want to believe her, but after some thoughts I really am lucky.

Things that made me happy:

1. Morning hugs
2. Sunday morning taho
3. Sunday morning mass
4. Singing Lessons at CFPM, with kids who is better than me
5. Bathtub soaks
6. Eating bbq
7. Hot choco at Chowking, so creamy
8. Selecta Moo choco drink
9. Videoke to the max, at our house in Ugong
10. Last but not the least, looking forward to my last pay at SVI

Blessed Ako

Ang aga aga nag sesenti ako. It's just that I feel so blessed, why did I ever never thought about it before? Here I am happily married to a wonderful guy, the best guy for me. Just his love is enough to make me realize that I am a very lucky girl to have him. Mega reklamo pa ako sa trabaho, and he was ther for me, always never intruding, always there to listen and to support me.

Once in a while, you have to pause and think of the things that are important to you. I retired from my work, and I have a lot of time to spend, spend it with him, his family, my family. I feel so happy. Kahit wala akong trabaho. Hindi ko naisip na kailangan ko ng pera, yeah right, I am earning a lot compared to my officemates and my position was full of responsibilities and I choose to say goodbye to it.

Ngayon lang, na na relax na ako at narealize ko kung gaano ang pasensiya na ibinigay sa akin ng asawa ko, ngayon na wala akong ginagawa, nalaman ko na mahal na mahal niya talaga ako. Ngayon, kahit noon pa, hindi niya nakakalimutan na sabihin sa akin na " I love you" bago siya umalis habang ako'y kunyaring natutulog at inaabangan ang kanyang goodbye kiss.

Nawalan ako ng panahon sa kanya, sarili ko lang ang naisip ko, pero nandyan pa rin siya, tulad noon, tulad dati, palagi siyang nandyan.

Umaga na, naka alis na siya, ni hindi ko man lang siya nangitian. naririnig ko ang mga huni ng ibon, at ang maliwanag na langit, ang sikat ng araw sa may bintana namin. Hindi mo ba sasabihin na suwerte ako? Wala akong trabaho, pero may isang tao na nagmamahal sa akin, oo hindi nga ako kagandahan, oo hindi rin ako sexy at hindi artistahin, pero may nagmamahal sa akin.

At dahil dyan nararamdaman ko na mahal din ako ng Diyos, na noon pa man, pinadala niya sa akin si Irwin para kung hindi man ako mabantayan ng Amang nasa Langit meron naman siyang katuwang sa pagsubaybay sa akin. Naniniwala ako na mahal talaga ako ng Diyos dahil kahit may masama akong ugali, hindi pa rin tumitigil sa pagunawa ang mga mhal ko sa buhay.

Subukan nyong huminto, tumingin sa bintana, ngumite, pakingan ang huni ng ibon, gumising ng umaga, magdasal at magpasalamat, at mahalin nang lubos ang mga tao sa paligid mo. Yun lang naman eh Pag Ibig, ay nakatira nga pala ako sa Pag Ibig, Pag Ibig Homes. =)

When I become what I hate

Someone close to me pointed out this weakness of mine, being too hypercritical.
I am not too critical, konti lang naman. Sabi kasi nilang huwag daw masyadong mapintas kasi babalik daw sa magiging anak mo. Nyaiks, eh wala pa naman akong anak kung saka-sakali baka ang pangit na ng magiging anak ko sa kapipintas ko.

Isa pang ugali na ayaw ko na sinabi rin sa akin, which is related sa last entry ko dito. On receiving gifts, dapat hindi binibilang or naghihintay ng kapalit. Well, siguro iba-iba nga ang mga pananaw ng tao. Irwin pointed out that I hate this ugali of an acquiantance of mine, na kapag may occasion, dapat may gift, at dapat may libre kung walang gift wala ring libre. Parang ganun. So what is the sense of celebrating kung parang kelangan ng ticket or entrance fee bago ka makalibre di parang binayaran mo rin ang sarili mong pagkain?

So siguro when giving gifts, give gifts from the heart hindi yung may hinihintay ka na libre or exchange sa binigay mo.

Sana magka baby na kami

Matanda na ako, kahit mukha akong bata. Kaya dapat lang daw na mag baby na kami. Pero paano nga ba? Nasa edad ba yun? Talaga bang pag matanda na, mahihirapan nang magka anak? Eh bakit yung iba, parang ang dali nilang magka anak? Kung sino talaga ang may gusto, yun ang hindi nagkakaroon, at kung sino naman ang marami nang anak sila pa nadadagdagan ng anak.
Parang kahit saan ako lumingon palaging may buntis, parang pinamumukha sa akin na ako rin dapat magbuntis na. Para namang hindi kami nag try, siguro dapat mag leave muna ako para walang stress. Haay, minsan kung iisipin mo din ang gastos parang ayaw mo nang magka anak, pero masarap ang may anak diba? At dapat hindi mo iisipin ang gastos?

Cooking Time

Well, since my MIL has a surgery and she can't move like before, I have to cook for them. Marunong na akong magluto ng Pesang Dalag. Ang pesang dalag ay parang tinola kasi may luya. Ang sarap, teka lang, parang nakalimutan ko na eto a ng mga ingredients:

Pesang Dalag
1 whole Dalag cut into serving size
1 malaking luya hatiin diagonally
3 cloves garlic
1/2 repolyo
1 sayote
3 teaspoon patis

First thing that we did was to wash the fish, tapos nilagan ni mommy ng mainit na tubig para matanggal ang amoy at lansa. Ginisa muna yung garlic at luya tapos saka nilagay yung patis then the dalag. Medium heat lang, after a while nilagyan namin ng isang basong mainit na tubig at pinakuluan na siya at saka niagay yung gulay. Huli ang repolyo. Pag malapit nang maluto.